College · Finding Purpose

Why It’s Okay to Change Your Mind–Over and Over and Over Again

Take a look at the drink in your hand (if you don’t have one, for the sake of the exercise, pretend and follow along please lol). If you juggle the bottle around, what happens?

The liquid moves.

Toss a stone in a pond, and you get the same effect (and if you’re really talented, you can even skip the stone! But, alas, that is not part of my repertoire…). Water has a funny way of resembling life. In the same way that water moves, ripples, goes up, and goes down, as do we. We humans are never stagnant–and if we are, we feel… groggy, unawakened. That’s because we’re not meant to be still for too long. We are constantly evolving, changing, and rippling with the stones thrown at us.

And if someone expects you to stay the same forever, then they are wrong. Simple as that.

As the firstborn, I witness this enforced stagnation from my parents all the time. My father, especially, has the ultimate daddy/police officer/strict/paranoid attitude and can’t seem to acknowledge that I’m growing up. Growth is natural. Growth is necessary. Birds fly the coop and children leave the house, in order that we might learn and become the best we can possibly be. The first step comes with college, but the vital step is in choosing a career.

No pressure or anything.

indecision 1

If you couldn’t tell by my recent bullet journal obsession, I have a thing for planning. Dad and Danny call it OCD; I call it being organized (and I mean, if we’re really gonna label it, it’s CDO, duh). I’ve always been a planner, a week-ahead-of-schedule and already-on-to-the-next-thing kind of gal. I still am, and that’s how I like it!

So, you can imagine my despair at not having a career picked yet.

Lemme do a little recap so you understand my predicament: senior year of high school, I was in the clear because I at least knew that I was headed to community college first. No big deal, everybody takes the same entry stuff the first two years anyway. Well… this is the end of my second year. End of sophomore year, end of community college, preparing to transfer to a university…

Showtime. And I haven’t memorized my script.

In one of my recent posts, I mentioned my education internship: it’s a class that meets once a week and the rest is my time at the nearby elementary school. Up until this point, my “declared mjor” was Elementary Education just because all my life people have told me I’d be a great teacher and, to be honest, it was the only thing I could think of (once upon a time I’d dreamed of being a zoo keeper, but after 9 years of looking after pigs that’s a no-go lol). Chronologically, my indecisive swaying between careers went something like this:

  1. Zoo keeper
  2. Vet tech
  3. High school English teacher
  4. Nutrition advisor
  5. Elementary school teacher
  6. Reading specialist
  7. ?

(Number 7 is what I’ve finally settled on–and, who knows, it could very well change. But this is what I’m feeling led to do and if you’d like to know what my choice is, stick around to the bottom 🙂 )

If you take a look at my list, you’ll notice a theme: that there isn’t a theme. Sure, a lot of them fall under “education”, but the jobs themselves vary wildly. While this list specifically applies to those in the same boat as me right now, those trying to figure out their career plan, the point is the same for everybody:

We change over time.

Now, I’m not saying that being in a constant state of indecision and lack of commitment in every area of your life is a healthy normal. What I am saying is that you as a person will change interests, change likes, change plans, in the exact same way your taste buds change–which is okay, it’s encouraged even! You are a unique individual with beautiful dreams, and you as a dreamer do not have to squish yourself into anyone’s rigid box of limitations. Grow. Stretch. Reach for the sun. You’ll never know what you’re capable of if you don’t give yourself a chance.

Follow your dreams. Follow your heart. Find a Jack Sparrow compass and follow it too (I had to break up the cliches, and who doesn’t love Johnny Depp as Jack, am I right?? Like, I made a whole Pinterest board about him, c’mon now). Don’t you ever let someone else keep you from doing what you love, please. You deserve happiness and adventure ❤︎

Okay, what you’ve been waiting for this entire time! No? Just here because you finally read all the way through? Hey, I’ll take what I can get 😉 For those of you actually curious haha, here it is: I’m thinking I’d like to be a middle school counselor. Pretty different from elementary school teacher huh? Well, I have been doing an INSANE amount of searching myself, Google hunting, and praying these past few weeks, and this is what has rang out to me. I may do a post on the reasons why, if you guys would be interested? Let me know what you think! Thank you so much for reading 🙂 You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎

Finding Purpose · Monday Mantra

Monday Mantra: Fairytale Edition

“Every person’s life is a fairytale written by God’s fingers.”

Hans Christian Andersen (1805-1875)

As I was scrolling through a few inspirational Bible verses on Pinterest to add to my new bullet journal, I encountered this lovely little quote I’d saved who-knows-how-long ago.

Many of you, like me, have an undying love for all things Disney, fairytale, or even just plain fiction/fantasy. Many of you, as fellow bloggers and writers, have a deep-rooted adoration for a really good story–me too! (I’m the kid who always asked for a Barnes N Noble gift card at Christmas, and would get more excited about a new book than all my new clothes put together lol.)

And what are a few key truths we know about a good story?

  1. There’s a relatable main character: This is you! You get your very own, hand-written and lovingly created story. That makes you pretty darn special 🙂
  2. The plot twist is unexpected, unpredictable, and seemingly unfair: We’re outraged for our beloved main character! We think “How could this happen?? How could he/she do that?!”, just like in real life when things don’t pan out the way we think they should. God’s still painting, still writing, we’re just impatient (lemme raise both hands for a sec) and think that God doesn’t know or miscalculated.
  3. There’s a villain: (I actually have a bit of an obsession with Disney villains, call me strange, but I have “Poor Unfortunate Souls”, “Be Prepared”, and “Mother Knows Best Reprise” memorized to the l.e.t.t.e.r.) Regardless of how we feel about him, the villain always comes into play. It could be a harsh boss, a rude coworker, or even a vengeful family member. In the grand story God is writing, the villain of all villains is the Devil, who prances around as everything we could ever want but is truly everything that hurts us. Good news is that the villain never wins in a true fairytale, and God’s already won the battle against Satan!
  4. The protagonist learns and grows: Lecture time. We’ve come to class, pencil in hand, whether we really wanted to get up at the crack of dawn to be here or not. That miscalculation we thought God made earlier? As it turns out, it was the best thing for us and we are better people because of it.
  5. Happily ever after: Have you ever skipped to the end of a book, completely ignoring all those screaming voices in your head saying Don’t you do it!!, and read the ending? Didn’t it just ruin the book for you? For me, the book loses all appeal and I no longer want to read it, now that I’ve read the best part first. Similarly, life wouldn’t be the messy, confusing, beautiful journey it is without its plot twists, maniacal villains, or time.

Wait on your happily ever after. It’s coming. God’s got you in the palm of his hand and he’s not letting you go–even when you walk away to fume about the story-writing process (ahem, I’ma just own up to my little fit last week). Like me, you probably want to know the happily ever after ending ahead of time. But maybe this week, you can consider that the chapters are all a part of the happiness.

You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎


College · Finding Purpose

Productivity, Phase 2: the Bullet Journal

Happy Thursday guys 🙂 If you’re new, welcome! And if you’re an old friend (because who am I kidding, this community of bloggers is one of the friendliest I’ve had the privilege to be a part of), welcome back!

If you read my last post, you know that I’ve been facing some heavy decisions and questions concerning my future here lately–just like every other young adult anywhere between senior year of high school and college graduation. What career to follow, what internships to pursue, how to handle said internships… On top of the regular homework load and all else we have to do at home, it can be quite the pill to swallow for young adults–and anyone who’s just got a lot on their plates. It can very easily become overwhelming.

Welllll, I wouldn’t be going on and on about reasons you’re overwhelmed if I didn’t have a potential solution for sorting them out!

I’m a regular agenda kind of gal: every semester I sit down with my planner and syllabi, and go through it to mark down each class’ major events. (The minor events and regular homeworks get filled in as the semester continues.) However, I always have a brief time span each semester, without fail, where I either neglect my agenda or have so much going on that I just forget to consult it. As expected, these moments can get pretty stressful–and if you never use a planner, I can only imagine what your poor brains go through trying to keep up with it all. (But hey, if planners aren’t your thing and you can remember everything you need to, you do you!)

Recently, I’ve been introduced to the concept of a bullet journal.

I know, I know. This is no new thing. Bullet journals were the hottest thing on Pinterest and Instagram like a year and a half ago, I get it. But I live in the middle-of-nowhere mountains of Virginia lol, I’m a little slow on the popular thing-a-ma-bobs wheel.

I don’t know all the ins and outs of bullet journaling, but I know there are a million and one websites and blogs all about ’em if you want to check it out! For me, it’s just been a comment here and there–first from my friend Chat, then in a sweet little post by creativeamara. The final straw in my decision to put my own twist on this whole notion was a post by my dear friend Maggie, whose organization methods inspired me 🙂

For all you photogenic people who know how to take the perfect picture, I am envious haha.

What started out as me just trying to organize my mentor teacher’s schedule (there’ll be a post about that here soon!) evolved into a schedule-inspiration journal. Of course, you never ever have to stick to it religiously or anything like that–it’s yours to morph and change with you! Life isn’t stagnant; neither will your journal be.

But anywho, here’s how I plan mine out:

  1. On the left page: Here’s where I put my daily schedule. Everything from my Bible time and yoga first thing in the morning to my homework in the evenings, all the “to-do’s” go on this side. Beside each, I have an empty little square. When it’s completed, I put a check in the box; if I’m halfway through, I put a slash; and if I had to move it to another day I put an arrow forwarding it.
  2. On the right page: Now, this is the side that gets to be all fun and girly (or handsome, I don’t wanna deter my masculine followers). I love to draw, but have not had ANY time lately, so this is a perfect way to get the creative juices flowing without spending hours on one piece. Google has hundreds of ideas for bullet journal pages, but pretty much it’s up to you. I like to have short inspirational Bible quotes, and then decorate them any which way. For example, the little jar above is a gratitude jar: there’s 28 days in February, so I fill out a heart each day when I’ve remembered to say thank you for something (another shout-out to creativeamara for the idea!).

How you do it is entirely up to you–and that’s what makes it such a novelty! Weight loss trackers, vacation countdowns, finances charts; you name it, you can have it! You can make it daily, weekly, or monthly. You can have an index at the beginning if you like (I personally didn’t since I’m incredibly OCD and trying to label an index without knowing what all I’ll be including just doesn’t work for me).

But the point is that it helps you promote productivity. These planners-turned-personal are all about aiding you in becoming the happiest, least stressed, most efficient you that you can be.

And when we take care of ourselves, we can take the next step of caring for others ❤︎

  • By the way, I didn’t go out and buy any specific kind of journal. Mine is simply a cute “Live fully. Breathe deeply. Love madly.” writing notebook from Barnes N Noble that I got on clearance lol.

Thank you very much for reading! I appreciate the patience during my increasingly-busy schedule–blogging has had to take a slight backburner, but in no way is it forgotten! I want you to know that you are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎

Battling Depression · Finding Purpose · Monday Mantra

Monday Mantra: When You Don’t Understand Why

Good morning my fellow bloggers ❤︎

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been facing a lot of “Why?”‘s in my life here lately: Why is this happening? Why didn’t this happen? Why can’t I do this? Why can’t you just tell me what to do? If you’re like me, even if you aren’t questioning now, I’m sure you have at some point.

But in the midst of doubts and questions, good friends arise to remind you that what we perceive as bad usually isn’t as bad as we think it is–and even if it is, it’s only one little stepping stone on our way to the best.

So here is a little collection of ideas I put together after facing my own set of “Why” questions, as I learn to let go of the need to know why and let God help me to the other side of the stream:

Every book requires its twist,

Every strand of hair, its trim.

Every mystery, its suspense.

Every right, its wrong.

Every justice, its injustice.

Every triumph, its trial.

Every lemonade, its lemon.

Every champion, its challenge.

Every victory, its battles.

Every comeback, its fallback.

Every road, its block.

Every cure, its disease.

Every antidote, its antigen.

Every “aha!”, its “on no!”.

Every balance, its imbalance.

Every up, its down.

Every yes, its no.

Every second, its first.

Every discovery, its deception.

Every success, its failure.

Every win, its lose.

Every answer, its question.

Every blessing, its curse.

Every peace, its chaos.

Every prince, its dragon.

Every hero, its villain.

Every life, its hardships.

Every solution, its problem.

“So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you have to endure many trials for a little while.” 1 Peter 1:6

Thank you very much for reading! I hope that these words help you face the unknown ahead with bravery and trust in our Lord. You are beautiful and you are loved  ❤︎

P.s. I want to give an extra hug and really big thank you to Maggie and “Lifeisabeaut” for their words of encouragement and love as I’ve been facing my own fears and expectations recently! You guys have spoken the right words at the exact right time, and I truly cannot thank you enough ❤︎

Battling Depression · Finding Purpose

3 Ways to Channel Your Inner Judy Hopps at Work or School

Good evening–or morning, or night, whenever you get the time to read this!

Generally, I’m one of those young adults that her peers look at as “having it all together”: I’m very organized, routine-oriented, plan-focused, and academically driven. Generally, I am always ready with a quick smile for friend and stranger alike.

But everybody has bad days, and I am certainly no exception.

This past Wednesday, my education class received our internship placements at the nearby Elementary School (and just so you know, this will be my first official teaching experience… ever *gulp*). I had requested to intern with the reading specialist, as my preference (obviously 😉 ) lies with the language arts and I wanted so badly to be a part of the system that opens childrens’ eyes to the magic of the written word. Reading and writing permeate every tangible and, more importantly, intangible aspect of the human world and to assist a child in such comprehension would lighten my heart every day!

So, Wednesday morning we met for the orientation, a 30-minute tour given by the school’s principal. Before we left the front lobby, she reached for her list of placements, each of us an equal mix of eagerness and nervousness. One-by-one, she calls each of our names. Each girl gets her mentor’s name, grade, and subject. 1st, 2nd, 3rd… Seventh in line, the principal turns to me…

“4th grade Math and Science”.



I was stunned. Completely derailed. The next half hour, I struggled to contain my racing thoughts, for fear the principal would see my inner turmoil playing out on my face. Did the reading specialist not want me? Why not at least the V.A. Studies/Language Arts teacher? I’m the only one who didn’t get her request. I didn’t even like math or science; how am I supposed to help a kid?? We travel through the campus-styled buildings and down the third and fourth grade hallway, past Olaf-and-snowflake-decorated classroom doors…

My teacher’s door is the only one not decorated.

Confused and scared, I sat in my car for the next hour following the tour and kind of, seriously, yeah definitely have a mental breakdown.

You see, my desire is to help people; I want to show love and spread encouragement. But I have literally no clue what career I should choose, and the clock is ticking down fast. If you’re also in college or finishing up high school, believe me, you are not alone in the struggle. All my life, people have told me I’d make a great teacher.

And yet, nothing fills me with more fear and self-doubt than the thought of standing in that classroom.

I’ll admit, the past two days I’ve been in a bit of an existential crisis. Pretty much questioning my entire purpose. After a whole lot of meditation, prayer, and some internal raging, I have determined–albeit somewhat unwillingly–to let go of my control and let God, because he knows better than I. His plans are always for our good and there’s something greater at work here I just can’t see yet.

I also got the help of one sassy bunny.

Judy Hopps

While in my car Wednesday afternoon, I suddenly thought of the movie “Zootopia”. If you haven’t seen it (first, I totally recommend you go watch it!), it’s a cute cartoon packed with all sorts of beautiful messages, but the main character is a bunny named Judy Hopps who has always dreamed of being a police officer.

She arrives, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, for her first day on the job in the big city–excited and ready! Her boss, Chief Bogo, passes out assignments to each of the officers…

Judy gets ticket duty.

Like me on Wednesday, she is initially shocked, but soon recovers and overcomes this with a surge of determination I am still praying to achieve:

“100 tickets? I’m not going to write 100 tickets–I’m going to write 200 tickets! Before noon.”

I’ve never been a really “proactive” person. I’m just not the overly-ambitious type. Fierce competition was never really my thing, and because of the emotional/verbal abuse in my household, I am definitely a submissive individual. So, switching from negative to positive in a flash like Judy is really hard for me.

You may struggle to find the good in your job. School may be beyond stressful right now (I’m right here with you friend). But, with a little help, we can each find our inner Judy Hopps:

  1. Smile: Simple, right? If you’re in a really tough situation, you know this one’s not as easy as it sounds. However, by simply tipping the corners of your mouth up, you are promoting the happy feelings in your body to get grooving. I don’t know all the scientific mumbo-jumbo behind it all, but I know it helps. Give it a shot 🙂
  2. Breathe: Did you know that when we start to get panicky or stressed, we physically restrain our breaths? It’s like a literal stress band we tie around our chests, preventing us from taking in a deep breath. If you feel the stress coming–maybe your boss yelled at you or a coworker is being completely uncooperative–, take a moment to consciously inhale… and exhale. Not only will this help to calm your inner emotions, but it will help keep you from saying anything you might later regret.
  3. Don’t Worry: Ahuh, I saw the eyeroll. And belieevveee me!, I wanted nothing more than to scoff at the words that DARED tell me not to worry when I don’t have any idea what I’m doing for the rest of my life, how in the world I’m going to get through this internship, and what am I supposed to do if it turns out I hate teaching? But would you know, the phrase “Do not worry” is written 365 times in the Bible. That’s once a day that we’re reminded not to worry. It’s not because there aren’t things to worry about–it’s because we have to trust God to handle those very same things. There will always be “What if?”‘s, and if we’re not careful they will consume us. Focus on today. Tomorrow’s worries will come soon enough, don’t let them rob you of your now.

A little bonus tip I suggest is turning the dismay into a challenge, like Judy did when Chief Bogo assigned her 100 parking tickets: even though she was upset at first, she resolved not only to do the 100, but she even doubled it! I’m unfortunately not at this point yet, but I’m getting there–it’s all in the baby steps!

Thank you so much for reading! I dearly hope that this helps any of you are struggling with disappointments today. God’s got you. He is so much bigger than whatever it is you’re facing–for me, that’s a 4th grade classroom. He’s bigger than your worries too. You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎


Finding Purpose

3 Steps to Promote Productivity Today

Good morning bloggers! I’ve got a concept today that has been heavy on my mind lately–heavy in a good way though.

Have you ever been scrolling through your phone (for me, it was usually Instagram), to suddenly look up and not know where the past half hour went? The past hour? Even more?

I understand that things like Facebook memes and Netflix are a necessary part of some people’s relaxation routines. They’re what help you unwind and brush off the weariness of the day. Believe me, I used to do the same thing: I’d get home from school, toss my bag on the bed and plop down, phone instantly in hand to “take a break” from the hectic hustle and bustle.

But when does it go from a little relaxing to laziness?

I have finally entered an awareness of how I spend my time (in just a minute, I’ll share some tips for you to do the same), but the rest of my family is still caught in the idleness trap.

Yesterday, I was downstairs working on homework before deciding to clean. After cleaning, I did a little reading. The time continued to pass, and you want to know what my brother was doing? Scrolling through his phone. Sure, there were occasional breaks to eat–but guess where his phone was? That’s right: still in his hand. In the bedroom, on the couch, at the island, the phone was always at the ready.

At this rate, the world is going to be filled with mindless human drones by 2050.

Take a second and think about your typical day. Of course, there’s school or work, but I’m talking about outside of that. What do you usually do when you get home; how is it that you spend your spare time? Take the dog for a walk, do some yoga, read a book? Or hit the couch with the TV remote and smartphone for the next three hours?

And we wonder why there aren’t enough hours in a day.

  • I want to make it clear that I don’t bash the TV or phone, or you for enjoying them. Hey, I do too! In this post, I hope to increase your awareness of where your time is going in a given day, and if the things it’s going to are actually beneficial or not.

I’ve been reading the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens lately (actually, I just read it all the way through for the first time and am going back for seconds!). Combined with my increased Bible studies, it really opened my eyes. I don’t want to look back on my life and remember a phone screen. I don’t want to regret missed opportunities and precious moments because I was simply wasting them away doing… nothing.

And I don’t want you to either! So here are some of the things I’ve been doing to be a little more productive each day–steps that you can implement into your everyday life:


Set an alarm:

It sounds cliche, I know. And all you night-owls are probably rolling your eyes, like yeah right. But this has been the key component of my increased efficiency levels for the past year. This is going to sound crazy, just bear with me, but I get up at 5:30 every morning.

Every. Morning.

I got up at 5:30 on Christmas. I got up at 5:30 on the weekends I could’ve slept in. I get up at 5:30 each day, and it has made a world of difference in how I go about my day. By starting off with that one small commitment to myself (instead of hitting snooze for the next two hours), I’ve now opened the door to making bigger commitments and accomplishing bigger things. It is the season for setting and achieving goals after all.

I know it’s hard–and I know 5:30 is just too early for some of you (which pertains to the next step). Pick the best time, just make sure it’s still relatively “early” in the morning. It’ll take a while to adjust, but I promise it is well worth it. You’ll realize that, huh, you do have more hours in a day, you’ve just been sleeping them away.


Get enough sleep:

Have you ever seen a car rundown on the side of the road, because it ran out of gas? Its owner was too busy to remember to take proper care of it, leaving the owner stranded.

You guessed it: the car is your body. In order for you to get anything done in a day, productive or otherwise, you’ve got to be refreshed and rejuvenated enough not to break down in the middle of the day. It makes sense.

While the exact number of hours will vary from you to me (under 6 I turn into a cranky evil monster; 7-8 and I’m great), it’s best if you find the optimal amount–and stick to it! Let your family members know you’re going to bed at a certain time. That’s the only way I got mine to leave me alone long enough for me to fall asleep (I go to bed at no later than 9:30, while they stay up till 11). If you let others know, you’ll be better able to successfully stick to your self-appointed bedtime.


Lock the phone away:

Put it in a dresser drawer. Leave it upstairs for once. Banish it from your bedroom.

Whatever your chosen course of action, set a time today to get away from technology. For some of you, this may be no biggie; for others, this is like going without your daily coffee–impossible. If you normally live and breathe your phone, take 5 minutes to clear your head every hour.

Not much, just 5 minutes.

Soon, you’ll be able to turn that small 5 into 15, then 30, then an hour, until you realize there are actually other things you want to do with your time. Find a hobby you enjoy. (Since you’re reading this, I’ll suggest blogging! Though, that may not help with getting away from technology… oops.) Hand-write a story. Draw a puppy. Go for a walk. It doesn’t matter what it is, it only matters that you’ve taken the time away from your phone. It really is freeing when you see that you don’t need to be on it every second.

Wait for that moment. It’s well worth it.

Alright my dreamers, that’s all I’ll touch on for today–but I could talk so much more about the joys of being productive! The feeling of accomplishment that comes with more efficient use of time is indescribable, and I hope you get to feel it too. Thank you for reading! You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎

Finding Purpose

Why You Shouldn’t Share All Your Resolutions

Hey there 🙂

Welcome back to my blog faithful followers, or hello for the first time to any newcomers! I hope you decide to stay and chat awhile with me. Today, we’re talking about, you guessed it, resolutions.


By now, you might be a little sick of the word (don’t worry, I am too–I actually don’t believe in the whole resolution thing, but that’s another story). Whether you wrote them off a week ago, banned them from your life, or are still strictly sticking to ’em, resolutions are pretty much everywhere right now.

Your’s may be a health journey, mentally or physically–or both. It might be a promise to quit an addiction. A vow to your significant other. Goals for your blog. Whatever it may be, it is a resolution or goal that you’ve set for you.

That’s right. For you.

Which is why I want to caution you against sharing your goals with just anyone and everyone.

In a lot of cases, accountability is a great thing. Going to the gym, for instance, is a whole lot easier and more enjoyable when you’re implementing the buddy system.

But when your resolution, your goal, is just a wee itty bitty baby, not even taking its first steps yet, sharing it with the world could actually damage it.


Just today, when I got home from school, I made the mistake of sharing a new character idea for a book I’m writing with my brother. I ignored that teeny voice in my head that was warning me not to, because I was so desparate for someone else’s affirmation. Here’s what was wrong with sharing this part of my goal (i.e. writing a book):

  • Yes, I have mentioned to both family and friends (and on here with you guys) that I one day want to write a book. Though I have been very vague on here, I’ve been sharing with my immediate family the details of this book. I don’t know about you, but my family is very critical. And when these ideas for my story are precious newborns, if I rely on my family’s approval to determine whether they live or die, it is so detrimental. The problem is that I am seeking other’s justification for what I am doing for myself. My goal is for me–just like your goal is for you, no one else. It’s tempting in the beginning to share, I know. It is so hard not to spread your enthusiasm with every ear in listening range. And that’s a good feeling! I’m glad you’re excited–as well you should be 🙂 But protect that excitement from the cold of the outside. Don’t let your newborn baby freeze to death before it can even crawl.

You will face opposition. You will face judgements. People will ask why in the world you want to do that, they’ll rub their noses at you and tell you it’s no good, it’ll never work out.

That’s what my brother did.

Against all better judgement, I presented this newborn character idea to him–nonchalantly on the outside, like I didn’t care what he thought, though I was, of course, begging him to like it on the inside. Like any wonderful, loving younger brother, his answer was “Cool! You’ve got this sis!”



No, like any real brother the first word’s out of Danny’s mouth were: “You know how hard it’s gonna be to get them to publish you right?” (I’d told him the specific publisher I have in mind. Another mistake, obviously.)


That one question, paired with his bad attitude, came this close to squashing my poor baby into oblivion. All because I was sharing what I shouldn’t have been.

Until you have grown the maturity to back up your resolution or goal, don’t share it with everybody. Maybe don’t even share it with your family–maybe especially don’t share it with your family. If you’re going to share it, only share with a select few people you trust to both give you honest feedback and kind encouragement:

  • You see, constructive criticism can be a beautiful thing for a goal–it can transform an inkling into action, a newborn into an infant. The right criticism can open your eyes to some of the mistakes you may be making. But because the criticism is coming from the right person/people, it builds you up where others might tear you down.

Right now, I don’t really have anyone to share my manuscript with. Not anyone who would build me up, anyway. While I’ve got–and you’ve got–a Father who delights in every single one of our dreams and cheers at every baby step we take, for now I can’t share my goals with anyone else. You may not have anyone else either.

And that’s okay. Sometimes it’s better to let our goals grow bigger and stronger before we let them walk on their own. If not sharing your resolutions means you won’t be at risk of letting somebody else destroy them, then it’s not a bad thing to keep them to yourself. It’s actually a beneficial thing–it’s not their goal anyway, they shouldn’t get to tear it down!

I do believe in the power of friendship and community, even if it didn’t sound like it I promise lol. And because of that, I am asking for a little help. (Which is taking more guts than it probably should.) The book I’m writing is geared towards young adult girls, like 12+, but I don’t have anyone that age around me to read and contstructively criticize. What are your suggestions? Anywho, thank you all so much for reading! You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎