Battling Depression · College · Counseling · Finding Purpose · Singleness

Get to Know Me… Since it’s been a little while

For once, I feel that it is I who should be welcomed back, not you my dear readers! It has been some time since my last post–time that was completely and unequivocably necessary.

If you are new here and haven’t read any of my old posts, I am a Jesus-loving gal who has a few, serious family issues (two, to be exact) and aching bouts of loneliness that drive me into a deep, depressed state. Further, I am guilty of trying to plug the holes of my heart with food, specifically, in the form of binge-eating.

A perfect recipe for disaster. (Get it? Recipe? Okay, I’ll stop.)

In all seriousness, however, this time away from the ministry of my blog and our wonderful community has produced an incredible amount of wisdom and spiritual growth (which I will get into later). Before my hiatus, I was not responding to comments as I ought to have been and was not posting with regularity–both of which I plan to correct now that I am, thanks to a good Abba, in a mental state to do so.

And if you’ve made it past my lengthy re-introduction to this point, I graciously applaud you! Now, we can get into the meat of this post: I thought that a “Get to Know Me” segment would be rather fitting. Sort of to honor my over-due re-entry to this online world you guys are a part of creating.

I wasn’t sure how many questions to go with, but 10 always sounds like an informative-but-not-quite-boring number, so here goes with a–hopefully–interesting 10 tidbits about me!

  1. Where are you in your education? I just finished my two years at a community college and transferred to my university a little under a month ago (*squeals*). First, I’m going to be getting a Bachelor’s in Psychology, so that I can then pursue my Master’s for Middle School Counseling.
  2. Are you an only child? Nope. I have a younger brother who just graduated high school this past May. If ever there were two siblings more different in temperament and personality, I have yet to meet them. (No joke, I know most siblings say they don’t get along, but all my friends who’ve seen us together completely agree with me.)
  3. Do you have a boyfriend? Another nope. At times, I am blissfully content in my singleness and couldn’t imagine living life differently, having less time to learn about God and cultivate my creative passions. Other times, I have to fight that bitter loneliness that rears its head when my gal friends talk about their college beaus. But, honestly, I think that’s natural. And I don’t think that makes someone any less grateful for their life, so long as they don’t wallow too long in the bitterness.
  4. What hobbies do you enjoy? Hmm… I haven’t necessarily “perfected” any, like, at all, but I’ve dabbled in a few things here and there: writing, drawing, painting, blogging, reading, and Bible journaling.
  5. What types of exercise do you actually enjoy? Trust me, I know. For some, weightlifting is just the thing; for you, a “traditional” workout routine may seem like a contagious disease. I haven’t tried ’em all, but after lots of experimenting, these are what I’ve found I like the most: walking my pups, yoga, dancing, and the occasional weightlifting.
  6. How old are you? I turned twenty this past July. (Whoever said turning eighteen makes you an adult clearly doesn’t know a thing; I am still a child, just with more responsibilities and debt.)
  7. How tall are you? I know it can be kind of hard to “visualize” fellow bloggers, even if the anonymity does have its safety purposes. So, here’s a little description, if it helps: I am about 5’6″; I have dirty blond hair; alabaster skin that, no matter how many sunburns I’ve endured, refuses to tan; blue eyes; and a quick smile.
  8. What’s the farthest you’ve been from home? I live in Virginia and have only been to a handful of other states: Florida, Georgie, Maryland, and North Carolina, all for either vacation or family reunions. When I am older and, you know, no longer a broke college girl, I plan to see much, much more of this giant playground God has given us.
  9. What’s your favorite genre of books or movies? Goly, I’ve been an avid reader all my life, so I can’t pin it down to a mere one. I like fiction and fantasy best with a main romance, but I can’t just read romance. As far as movies go, I’m in love with almost anything Disney; also, Christmas movies are near and dear to my heart.
  10. What is something that many people are obsessed with but you don’t see the point? Sports. Not playing sports, that’s great, healthy even. What I don’t get is how fanatical everyday people get over players they will very likely never meet in person. At times, I find it amusing, but when I see people fighting each other about it, I have to shake my head in baffled wonder.

And that’s it! Feel free to leave any questions in the comments if there’s anything else you’d like to know about me 🙂

You are beautiful and you are loved ❤️

Finding Purpose

A Summer Hiatus, An Awakened Heart

Some of you may look at this post popping into your feed with varying degrees of confusion or even lack of recognition. And that’s okay. Whereas you may have been faithfully chugging out a post a day these past few months, I’ve been faithfully… well, not.

I guess it got to the point where I was just writing what I thought my readers wanted to hear; I was just in it for the likes, the views. For some, that may be fine and dandy, but for me? It felt like I was slowly killing all I want my blog to stand for, because I lost the vision and was working off a dying ember. So, if only one person reads this, that’s okay too.

Because I know God will send each post to the exact person who needs it.

Not that this post or even that my blog is something super special by any means–I’m just one young woman in our ever-growing world. My words aren’t overly-captivating or inspiring, my blog holds no extra appeal than the next. Many of you are far superior writers than my mere twenty years can compare. The only magic to be found here isn’t magic at all.

It’s faith.

Well, there’s a little Disney too.

To those of you who were loyal readers prior to this summer, should you be reading this now, I cannot thank you enough for your encouragement and patience. To those of you who are brand new, I hope you can also employ patience as I ease my way back into this amazing community of bloggers. I’ve met some pretty fantastic people in these past few weeks, and I have a feeling I’ll be writing more on them soon. Your girl’s no longer a community college student–oh no, I’ve hit the big leagues at university!

But let’s not spoil it all too quickly now. Until next time,

You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎

P.s. To Loved by the King of kings, this one’s for you 😘 I can’t say that Flynn Rider has come to sweep me from the top of my tower just yet haha, but my time there is up. Blessings sweet friend for prompting my return.

Battling Depression · Monday Mantra

Monday Mantra: You Are a Piece of Art

This Friday, I submitted some of my drawings into my college’s art show (which was, you know, the first time I’ve ever publicly displayed my drawings…ever. No big deal haha). The part that really stood out to me was that Thursday afternoon, however.

I walk in the door, and it’s a flurry: people at desks, in chairs, whizzing back and forth between tables, materials strewn everywhere. I only knew one girl there (bless her beautiful heart, she literally helped me with everything). So, I walk in to this artistic madhouse and–while Emma cuts foam board and matting to frame my drawings–curiously observe these artists, people-watching from my own little corner of the room.

And I notice something.

It started when I had to hand over my drawings to Emma and then a girl I didn’t even know. Now, again, I’ve never done this before. So, I wasn’t expecting the maternal instinct to kick in over a piece of dead tree alright, but boy did it ever. If you’ve ever created anything (art, poetry, a book, your blog even) and had to entrust it to someone else, you know what I’m talking about. You suddenly realize, “This is my baby” and don’t want to let it go. You worked hard on your baby. You hand-crafted it, you shaped it, you molded it, you designed it’s very being.

In order for the world to see my babies, my drawings, I had to let them go. I had to conquer fears of self-doubt, unworthiness, vulnerability, and remind myself that they are worthy.

Which was scary. But it opened my eyes in a way I never would have imagined.

As I handed over my drawings, and watched as dozens of other artists prepped their pieces for display, I saw the enormous love each one had put into his or her work–the same love I had put into mine. Watching all of them sweat over and perfect their art, I realized, this is how God must feel for us. He uniquely and individually crafts every single one of us, and then lets go of His beautiful creation into a crazy world–a world that judges and tears down and hurts. We even judge ourselves, nitpicking and degrading the parts of ourselves we hate, like God somehow messed us up.

I started to compare my work to other drawings, I won’t lie. The doubt started nagging in my head that maybe mine really weren’t good enough and why was I even thinking about entering them into the show? But looking around at the art, I stopped.

Every single piece was different. And to its creator, every single piece was beautiful.

To the Creator, it doesn’t matter what one person might look like next to another, like when I compare myself to another girl or when you compare yourself to someone else. Because to Him, each piece, each person, is art anyway–there’s no “better than” or “more worthy than”, we’re all just art.

Beautiful, worthy, special art.

You’re art. You are beautiful, you are worthy, and you are loved. I just want you to know that. ❤︎

Battling Depression · Finding Purpose · Monday Mantra

Monday Mantra: Life’s a Fairytale, Just Don’t Forget the Dragons

As a professed Disney lover and fan of Happily Ever After’s, too often I hear the sarcastic reply that “Life isn’t a fairytale” by friends and family members.

I beg to differ.

Because you guys seemed to like my “Monday Mantra: Fairytale Edition” post, I thought I’d do a sequel of sorts. (And because, you know, when aren’t fairytales post worthy?)

When people commonly argue that life isn’t full of Prince Charming’s or fancy palaces, I think it’s because they look at it from a strict, story book perspective. So, yes, if you’re expecting to see Princess Aurora on your doorstep, asking for somewhere to crash and take a nap, you’ll be waiting a long time. (Unless you live near Disney World…)

That’s not to say that life doesn’t have other fairytale aspects, though.

Now, I understand that most of us don’t face fire-breathing dragons in the literal sense (but hey, if you do, I’m expecting an invite!). But how many of us battle obstacles every single day? They make not come with scales or wings, but they are obstacles nonetheless:

  • Rude boss
  • Messy kids
  • Bills
  • Marital discord
  • Class stress
  • Uncertain future
  • Need I go on?

So, chin up buttercup. You’re a knight in shining armor, facing off some serious dragons, just without the uncomfortable chain mail and heavy sword. And better yet, you’ve got something the story books didn’t have when fighting their dragons: a God who is fighting for you at every step.

You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎

College · Counseling

Shaking the Nerves: 7 Tips to Prepare for Class Presentations

Good evening! 🙂 I hope the week has treated you well–I’m currently bundled up in a blanket, wondering why Winter has suddenly reclaimed control over the weather lol. Due to a bout of anemia this year and just a change in personality, I’ve gone from loving all things cold weather to “Bring on Summer!!”, so these 40 degree days have lost their appeal. Oh well, it was still a gorgeous, sunny day!

It’s not quite final exam season yet, but this is what I call “pre-finals” season (and if you’re in school right now, you know exactly what I’m talking about). It’s the in-between where teachers and professors throw in all the hefty projects, essays, and extra assignments they can before we have to start obsessing over finals.

Needless to say, I’m ready for the semester to be over lol.

However, there are some enjoyable parts about this season: I got to present my first-ever lesson plan yesterday! For those of you who’ve been reading my posts awhile, you know I recently switched my career focus from teaching to counseling–so, my EDU professor let me put together a counseling lesson plan for the age group I’m interning with (fourth graders).

As a sort of memoir for these beginning days in my counseling journey, I think I’m going to do a post specifically explaining the lesson plan, if you’d be interested 🙂 Even if you don’t work in the school system, maybe you could use it with your own kiddos!

The way the lesson plan went was that my EDU class (professor included, so about nine in all) pretended to be fourth graders while I gave the lesson. I’ll have you know, that this was my first time presenting–ever! Most of the other girls have all either been in internships before or are actually working in a daycare or school system already.

I don’t know about you, but I’m a shy introvert with a dislike for the spotlight. You may be the life of the party, but I think we can all agree that class presentations are nerve-wracking. I physically shake when in front of the class! My hands get clammy, my legs get shaky, and the very tip-tops of my ears burn an unbecoming shade of lobster red.

Sound familiar?

As unavoidable as the butterflies may seem, I’ve got a few tips I’ve rounded up from past (and present) experiences that I hope can help you out. Yesterday, I presented without the shakes and stumbles, and know you can too:

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Preparedness:

I don’t care what my guy friends tried telling me in high school, “winging it” just doesn’t cut it. (Sorry men, I’m not trying to be sexist, it really was the guys in my class.) There’s no better way to make yourself nervous than to show up for a presentation, meeting, or interview with no clue what you’re going to say. Which leads me to my next tip:

Outlining

Outlining:

I personally try to memorize my speech before every presentation. I know this comes with the risk of sounding monotonous or like you’re on autopilot mode, but there are ways to help that like eye contact, hand gestures, and intonation. But back to outlining: whether you want to write out everything you’re going to say until you have it memorized or just want a brief “1, 2, 3”, go ahead and scribble something down. It’s better to plan too much and be able to drop information–especially if you’re like me and have this wonderful knack for blanking out.

Study room

Separate work and play:

I get it. This presentation is worth half your semester grade or could land you the biggest promotion in your office. You want to do the best and are willing to do whatever it takes–including pulling an all-nighter and arriving to class or work on a caffeinated adrenaline high.

But please, don’t.

Set aside time for your project, a little every day leading up to it, so that you can avoid cramming last minute. But more importantly, set an end time. An hour, three hours, half the day–just make sure that, when you’re done, you are done. (Oh, and get some sleep.) Take time to pamper yourself or just sit around relaxing, so you’re not so burntout by the time you present that you can’t think straight. This also applies to separating yourself from distractions when working (yep, that means the cell phone goes away. When boredom kicks in and your phone is out of reach, you won’t be able to start scrolling through Instagram for the next hour. You’re welcome).

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Have a warm drink:

It sounds small, but it can go a long way. When I was prepping for my counseling lesson plan, I ended up with a scratchy throat–the last thing anyone wants before a presentation. I found that having warm tea not only soothed my throat, but it helped me to relax, especially the morning of. To take it a step further, feeding yourself right is beyond important. I know it gets to be cliche, we’ve all heard it before, but that’s because it’s the truth: what you put into your body is what you can expect to get out of it. Stay hydrated, eat your greens, and enjoy a cup of tea.

Exercise

Exercise the day before:

Now, I’m no scientist or fitness expert. I can’t tell you all the specific, fancy mumbo-jumbo behind the endorphin release that comes from working out. But I can tell you that I’ve felt it and I know it to be true. (Again, this should really be a part of your regular schedule, just like eating healthier.) Ladies, trust me, I know getting sweaty the morning beforehand just ain’t happening, which is why I’m suggesting this the day before. Taking a brisk walk, going for a run, lifting weights–the choice is yours, just get the blood pumping and limbs moving. Sitting and studying is going to leave you crabby enough without the added stress of not moving all day long, I promise.

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Tell yourself you’ve got this:

You’re going to get a little nervous, plain and simple. It’s natural. However, how you talk to yourself during the butterflies can make or break your performance.

Thinking things like “I can’t do this”, “I’m going to mess it up”, or “They’re going to judge me” is depressing and disheartening–and certainly isn’t going to make the nerves go away! Instead, tell yourself you can do it: you’re beautiful/handsome, you’re an amazing human being, and you can rock this!

And one last thing… everybody else is just as nervous as you. You’re not alone. Before the awkward silence starts, share a few laughs with your classmates or coworkers about how one of you forgot your flashdrive, you’re already sweating, and this is your least favorite subject. Then, tell them they’ve got this too!

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Last, but not least, read a few verses:

It’s intimidating, I know. The Bible is a big book and it can almost seem to loom from the bedside table. If it makes it easier, just google some empowering verses on your phone–we all know your phone is already out anyway. Whatever way you go about it, I cannot tell you how much this can help you destress. Reading how God will not let you fall (Psalm 46:5), how God is always with us (Joshua 1:9), and that God Himself makes the way and fights for us (Exodus 14:14) can be incredibly encouraging when we’re preparing for something we know makes us nervous.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7

Presentations can be a little nerve-inducing, but they don’t have to be scary! I let God show me how much he loves me and how he wants me to be confident, laughing without fear of the future, and because of thatI had the best presentation of my life yesterday! I want with all my heart for you to know that same love and confidence, in whatever you do, every day 🙂 You are beautiful and you are loved ❤︎